Sometimes, you need to settle for "good enough"

The Cost of Trying to Do Everything Perfectly

From the moment you wake up, you’re already managing the day. You have your coffee in one hand, your checklist in the other.

Getting kids up, fed, dressed, and out the door.

Trying to take care of yourself somewhere in between… if there’s time.

Then work.. emails, appointments, problem-solving, staying “on.”

Maybe skipping lunch. Maybe calling it a handful of snacks between tasks.

Then it all starts again. Pick-ups, homework, dinner, practices, bedtime routines.

Finally sitting down at night, completely spent…only to wake up in the middle of the night and do it all over again.

Some moms have more support than others

Some may have a supportive partner who picks up the slack. Some may have family friends or relatives who can carpool kids to events or school. Some may have flexible work hours that allow them to go to the grocery store in the middle of the day.

And many moms aren't so lucky. Many moms carry the burden of the entire family system and can't catch a break. Many moms are dealing with their own childhood experiences that cause them to subconsciously add more pressure to be the best, to do more, to give one hundred percent to everything... and it's just not sustainable.

Because when everything is of equal importance, the load can be too much to bear.

But what would happen if you cut yourself a little slack? What if, instead of giving 100% to everything you picked one thing to give 100% to... and the other things you allowed yourself to give only 50% to? or 30%? Dare I say... 10%?

What do you notice in your body as you read that proposal? Any tension? Rapid heartbeat? Sweaty palms?

It can be scary to go from feeling like you have to do it all.. to purposefully allowing yourself to lower the bar.

And it's important to explore why that scares you.

Why can't you allow yourself to be "just ok?"

Why do you have to be the best?

That part of you that has to do everything perfectly... what is it afraid would happen if you stepped off the hamster wheel?

And is that inner dialogue the real truth.... or does it have good, yet misguided, intentions?

If you feel called out, that's ok. I would encourage you to consider starting small if you want to make a change.

Pick one thing today that truly matters... and give that your 100 percent. Then, intentionally lower the bar somewhere else.

Let dinner be simple.

Let the laundry wait.

Let something be “just okay.”

Notice what happens in your body when you do.

That’s where the work begins.